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Real happiness means a spacious and calm mind. It is not just about having fun. We should have a grounded mind that isn’t influenced by whether we have a good day or a bad day. We need to learn that what we normally consider happiness is not reliable. Our normal happiness is rather shallow. Rinpoche is not saying don’t go to parties or have any fun. But realize that when you don’t have calmness you can’t produce or maintain positive thoughts.
We need to develop a basic ground. We can refer to this state as peaceful or calm. Rinpoche prefers the term “spacious.”
We have lots of things to worry about. We have work, study, and relationships to worry about. So we need to develop a spacious mind. This allows us to accommodate whatever is happening. Our minds are tight. Our vision is narrow. Patience and joy disappear and the things we do don’t really make us happy. Or they make us happy for a very short time.
Sometimes if we use the term “meditation” it sounds too heavy. It sounds like it involves a lot of work. Rinpoche advises us to think of it as “creating space” instead.
How to create space?
Go beyond walls! You can do this at any time of day and wherever you are. The position doesn’t matter so much. It works very well when you stand. It doesn’t matter if your eyes are open or closed. Imagine the vast spaciousness around you. Just imagine. When you really stop and feel this way, you can sense an openness in your heart. Your chest actually opens. When you feel this –maintain that feeling. Now you can look at your problems without difficulty. Your body and mind are not stressed.
How to practice:
The whole idea is to create the space, feel it, and relax into that feeling. Don’t forget the spaciousness when you look at a problem. You can now see different angles to solve the problem because you are not wrapped up in it. This is how meditation helps — it helps you create the space and calm the mind. But the key is not just calmness — you need the spaciousness! When your mind is spacious you don’t take things too personally. Compare this to your habitual reaction — there are a lot of things we take personally. Rinpoche uses the example of a yellow traffic light — creating space gives us the time to see things clearly.
At the end of the teaching, please remember to dedicate the merit of receiving a Dharma teaching. As you go through your day, take a few moments from time to time to recall these instructions.
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