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Skilfully sharing meditation: coaching others
Skilfully sharing meditation and its benefits presents us with some challenges. On one hand, we want our family and friends to experience the benefits of meditation. But, we don’t always know how to encourage others. In this very short audio clip, a student directly asks Phakchok Rinpoche how best to go about skilfully sharing meditation. We may all know people who say they just can’t meditate. How do we offer real encouragement?
Skilfully sharing meditation tips–start small!
We can begin by suggesting conducive situations. For example, Rinpoche notes that exercise can help calm our minds. When we engage in exercise, and tire our physical bodies, our minds settle more easily. But Rinpoche also understands that busy minds are very challenging. In the beginning, when we try to sit, we may feel our minds exploding with thoughts. So, when we talk with others, we need to give skilfully advice. We don’t expect someone who doesn’t walk to start jogging, right? Similarly, we should be very gentle when coaching our friends in meditation.
Then, once they’ve done that for a week or so, encourage them to add another two minutes. And acknowledge the progress: “Great, you’ve done seven minutes!”–that’s important. Then, maybe after three weeks, we can suggest ten minutes of meditation. And again, we need to offer praise and encouragement for that ten minutes. It is important to proceed slowly and gradually. Gradual improvement results in a steady practice.
Skilfully sharing meditation: Think of your mind as a kitten
In this talk on What does meditation practice mean?, Rinpoche explains why we gently approach our minds like a kitten. Don’t be too harsh or too strict in the beginning.
As beginners, we benefit from additional teachings, meditation instruction, and practice exercises. In the short at-home program, Training the Mind: An Introduction, Phakchok Rinpoche gives more detailed meditation guidelines. Also, we present meditation exercises and reflections for you and your friends to discuss and apply in your daily life.
How might you encourage loved ones, family members or friends to give meditation a try? If you’ve talked about meditation with beginners before, what has been particularly helpful?
At the end of the teaching, please remember to dedicate the merit of receiving a Dharma teaching. As you go through your day, take a few moments from time to time to recall these instructions.
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